in the end it all works out.

Yup! I do. At least I’d be in advantage in aspects like sports, maybe I’d be better in Math and I’d have to worry less about having relationships with women cause I have control, I have the choice. Let’s take that point by point.

Sports= Well, my height is my ultimate advantage. I’d probably be forward of my school’s basketball team and unlike now, being not so good about it, I think I’d devote my life to playing ball. Imagine, doing something you really like with many perks (scholarship, allowance and a good body to die for). [I had so much fun a while ago. I shot some hoops with Jopa and Mons. Scored 39 during the first round, 35 during the second.Gotta get me my own Powercard. Haha! ]

Math= I just think men by nature are good in numbers. They are more versed in the technical aspects of life. Thus, engineering is a man-dominated field. […which reminds me of my pathetic grade of 3 in Math 100! Moving on…]

On love and relationships=If I were a guy, I’d choose girls not solely on physical appearance. I’d respect her more. I’d listen. I’d give her time. She’ll be dead sure that she’s the only one. She’ll be proud of me.
I hear stories of my girlfriends about their guy prospects and it saddens me how men could be so cruel by taking advantage of girls and putting them in tough spots.

Story No. 1
Some men don’t have the notion of definition but oh! They are so good in giving signals. What do I mean? Simple, we’re cool together. I tell him everything. I am his bestfriend. He tells me he likes me (jokingly). I ride along. I dunno how to describe it but you come to a point where you begin to wonder…what do we mean to each other? Am I friend? Am I lover? He chooses you over her girlfriend. In fact, he prefers talking to you. You sorta become the alternate. The gf’s jealous. But he shoves it off. You’re confused. What do you do now? To guys, this situation would be a “we’re happy, could we just stay the way we are?”. But to a girl, it is “I dunno where to stand in your life. But since you dragged me into it, why not tell me?!” The probabilities why guys simply don’t “ “define” are: One, he still loves his gf but enjoys you so much. Kinda like the song which goes, “I like her but I love you..She wants me and you d too. But if you ask me who it’s always been you.” Sana lang ikaw yung always been! Two, he’s a chicken! He can’t tell her he doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. Thus, pakiramdaman na lang! Bull crap! Third, he’s afraid to risk the friendship. Cause inevitably, things will change and will be uneasy at first. The answer to the dilemma? Friend 1…Go with the flow. I salute your mere act of trying to make things better for them. It’s not your fault he comes to you. But remember, “Mas madaling hulihin ang manok na nakatali na!”

Story No. 2
Some men are freaked by the very thought of commitment. Ayan na naman ang signals. But when you almost thought you two are going somewhere, the warning light blinks brightly. Oops, you are just the one willing to hop in. He remains outside the circle, still testing the waters. Why are you men afraid of being attached ha?! Being a psych student, I can only suggest that you probably have issues on your own which you have to deal with before being comfortable in a two-some. If that is the case, do it faster. Girls can’t wait forever. Friend 2, my advice is this. You’re signs are there flashing in front of you. Read them!

Story No. 3
Some men don’t know how to choose girlfriends. Ok, this is no longer a fair issue. Haha!

To sum things up, there are so many reasons to hate men. But then again, girls still love ‘em. What an irony! J but for all the good things the opposite sex has to offer, i'd still want to be a girl.

No one should wonder why I am writing this piece. Although it is a divergence from my usual “about me” blogs, I deem this is something we, Filipinos should be informed about.

I am not GMA’s fan. But I was neither her enemy. The moment the results came out announcing her extended term, I feel momentarily sad that Senator Lacson whom I voted for did not win. Nevertheless, I gave the incumbent president my support and trust as a citizen. For so long a time, I gave her the benefit of the doubt believing that the problems experienced by the country are common but are not easy to solve. I hated the guts of people who criticized her endlessly but when asked what they think should be done have no answer but, “Oust GMA!”. The majority voted for her. Give her a chance then. We can’t forever be discontented with the leaders we put into office. The latest anomaly involving the President, which puts her very low approval rating to almost none existent, is poking the country’s wounds which are on its process of healing and makes me wonder, is it really the voice of the people that was heard? The answer is crystal clear. She wanted the position. So no matter what happens, she has to be the president in the end.

Years ago, for me she was a person of dignity and word of honor. But when she took back her announcement that she was no longer running for office come 2004 election, that was strike 1. Strike 2 is the most recent declaration of June 13 as a holiday. Why all of a sudden? Will giving people a long weekend bring back the trust she ruined herself? Will that feed the hungry mouths of Filipinos? Will that answer the problems on employment and increasing prices of commodities? With due respect Madame President, it would more than a hundred holidays to win even a fraction of your credibility back.

I fear that one morning when I wake up there will be another July 27 mutiny. I fear that more lives will be endangered because of the current situation of the country. But more than that I fear that the truth will not come out because people are concerned more of themselves more than the sake and well-fare of their fellow men. I thought we were a strong nation. A nation able to withstand all the rigors of time. However, I am no longer that sure. Values are exchanged for money and power.

I dream of becoming a lawyer. One of the most rewarding professions cause you become an instrument of justice. The lucrative lifestyle of most in that field is very enticing. And I will not be a hypocrite and say I don’t want any piece of that. I do. I am practical. But I have fear in the Lord. I have a strong conscience. God will always be there to guide me in my decisions and actions. I hope the lawyers and officials of today could have the same line of thinking as I do. But then again, who knows what I’ll become tomorrow?

At this time, when values are changing for the worse and people are becoming more and more greedy, it is important that we never forget that we are a Catholic nation that when united makes things happen for us. Let us all pray for our leaders, that they may be humble enough to admit their faults and subject themselves to the proper judicial processes; that those who want their positions have no ulterior motives only good intentions for our country; that this on-going cases, be not based on trial by publicity but rather be based upon the Constitution, the fundamental law of the land. Let us pray for our country, that we may still be proud that we are Filipinos, still struggling and fighting amidst all the crisis that come our way.

I will hold on to the little trust left in me. At the moment, I can only hope…that tomorrow, things will be better. But I will prepare myself, buckle up…this is just the beginning of a very bumpy ride.

i looked forward to friday the moment i stepped foot on UP. Kasi matutulog na ko sa dorm. Turned out to be not that bad. I like my room mates. Nice people. Neways, i had breakfast off the cart.

upon going home, i witnessed mga not so good incidences. yung mama, nagpara, the jeep did not stop..he jumped then nagroll over..eh may kasunod..muntik na! umaatras yung mama, yung guy sa likod nahampas nung rear. Passengers who are very impatient for a bus na ayaw pang umalis dahil naghihintay ng pasahero. I admit minsan tlga nakakainit ng ulo., pero patience. these people are earning a living. ang mahal ng gas, ng toll...hhaaayy...nakakalungkot...

but im happy..coz im home..

I finally finished my enrollment. Wow! Only 19 this sem and 10 more to go and I’m officially done with my bachelor’s degree. Who would have thought that it will be this fast? (well, if you’re in the middle of projects and lectures, it would seem forever!) Anyways, I went to Makati after that. Waited for my friends who came at past 5 pm when we were supposed to meet at 430! Good thing I saw another friend and I sat beside her. Turns out she and her mom are watching the same movie we are going to, A Lot like Love. J It’s a cute film. Ashton’s very adorable and the chemistry between them is natural. I love the songs. The wacky antics. I almost cried when he sang for her but she said she was already engaged and he replied, “At least when I’m old I wouldn’t have to wonder ‘What if…’ “. I saw Ms. Renz, Ms. Sugar and sir Jojo pagkalabas ng movie house. hehe...After that, we went to Megamall to watch the launching of Bamboo’s new album and to catch Hale. Unfortunately, I never got to see Hale but I saw Ira and Bamboo of Bamboo. Ira’s very attractive. Haha. Then we met Carlos, who very kindly treated us to Yellow Cab. Pa-birthday niya daw! J Like he had to??? So un, we ate 2 pizzas and separated after that. We went to Naza’s mom’s wake and I admire how Naza is dealing with her loss. I dunno what I’d do if I were in her situation. I got home to find my lucky lobster waiting for me. J my dad bought it cause I asked him to. Pero, 1 lang binili niya. Baka malungkot yun! J ehe..neways, it was a fun Friday night! J Kudos to Carlos again for the pizzas and company…J Pixies here

Condolences to my ninang, Ms. Johnson. Her mom died yesterday morning.

i'm back. after a few days of being silent, i'm here to rant (again) about my days and nights. to start of, let me thank those who prayed for me. I'm done with Math 100 (Calculus). I got 3 which i prayed for (tama si ianny, had i prayed for a higher grade..hehe...nah! that's greed). Orlson, my partner, got 1. (He's really good at it. However, his skills didn't rub off me.) But i'm going back to Math building for my sweet revenge with Math 2 (which is just a piece of cake daw! sana...).

Hmm..whatelse, i just finished ironing. Today, i did a little of all house chores. I washed the plates, did laundry, nagwalis, naglinis, nag-iron. I was texting with Sir Jojo, told him i hated ironing. Sabi niya, di raw ako pwedeng maging house wife. Sabi ko, Di tlga noh! Never. Being a housewife is difficult. it's a noble role to play. But it's not just for me. For practical reasons and...la lang..i have so many plans and i don't need a nosy husband telling me to stay at home forever. No, no. But i'd gladly prepare meals even after a long day at work. You won't see me stuck at my humble abode on work days. Maybe weekends...

Condolences to Nazarene Rubi and family. Her mom passed away. May this be a reminder to everyone that life is fleeting. Cherish every moment. Make most of your time left in this planet.

It’s been a while since I last went out with my friends. The last time was April 16^th. (Yes, for me that’s too long already, especially when we usually meet every week). I came from mass in Makati and it ok me awhile to get to BF. When I finally got there, we ate then we headed off to play billiards. After almost two hours of desperately trying to learn how to shoot some balls, we sat down and talked about almost everything. It was 1 am when we separated.Now, Bily, Jopa, Wamos and I were supposed to go to Bily’s lola’s wake. But we went somewhere else. We stayed at Baywalk and over tapsilog, gulaman (na wlang gulaman), a man selling snakes, prostitutes being traded (which really had me thinking considering becoming a women’s right advocate), a monkey on a tree and lots of ketchup wasted (by me), I must say we had a very interesting discussion on….men, women and relationships.
With 3 girls and only 1 guy, we took the opportunity to barrage Wamos with questions concerning his species. Why are you guys like this and that? One particular example, is how very few men are consistently sweet. What happens most of the time is a man lures you with his gentlemanliness, kindness and thoughtfulness. When he has you, can proudly call you his girlfriend, he suddenly forgets about the image the girl fell for. But since the girl already loves the guy, she sees this transition as part of him which she has to accept. But that’s crap. The only change that should happen between courtship is commitment is improvement and not the other way around.
Second, some guys only look for girls who are the physically best of the bunch. She has to be really attractive, sexy and has to dress well. Guys and gals’ attraction to each other all start from physical level. But guys linger on such basis much, much longer. Girls fall for a well-mannered guy and not for the well-dressed one. If he’s good looking, that’s just a bonus but if not, that’s fine. Personally, I’d consider a guy who shows interest in getting to know me more deeply rather than someone who just makes pa-cute and flatters. Yeah, it’s alright to compliment. But I’d rather be complimented for a good heart and being a sensible conversationalist than because I have a nice height, complexion or whatever. Beauty fades. It will go. I want someone who can convince me he is telling the truth when he says I am beautiful even when I’m at my most wasted moment. I’d rather him see me transform into a better person than to see him complain because the swan he courted is slowly morphing into an ugly duckling. Combining both, attitude and physical attributes, Wamos told me that a lot are intimated by me. But then again, I see the courage to step up to me as something admirable as most men are intimidated by women whose lips are not pursed all the time simply because they have relevant and interesting things to say. Most men are governed by pride. They hate competition. They want to wear the pants in a relationship. They want the distinction to be absolutely clear, “I am the guy, you’re just the girl.” I hate that. I don’t like being pushed around and looked down because I am a woman. I mean, gone are the days that women are treated as weaklings. I can no longer count the number of times I offered my seat in the MRT for an older or pregnant woman when there are lots of guys who could have done the same. It is so disappointing that not all men are chivalrous and respectful at that, anymore.
One more thing, how could something so nice an special be forgotten so quickly. While a woman cherishes the bond, (i.e. loooong talks, chats about your lives plus secrets he never told any one but you) a man throws it all away in a jiffy? Boys get up close and personal with a girl, making her feel special then when he finds another one, tata! One second he goes, “Lam mo, I’ve never been this comfortable with anyone.” Before you know it, “Ano ka ba! Wala lang yun…” bullsh*t! Wala lang pala yun?!
Eto pa! Machismo at its worst. He’ll be sweety-sweety with all the girls. Or should I say all possible prospects. Then he’ll tell you that even though he goes around with other girls, you are still the only one he really likes? C’mon man! How do you expect that girl to know if you’re really serious with her when you text, call over 10 girls? When you hang out at bars? When you date a lot??? Kamusta ka naman?!
With all the pains that a relationship with a guy brings, is it still worth it to be in one? I still say yes. Guys, women are hopeless romantics by nature. We are selosa, possessive sometimes but that just solidifies our claim that we want the relationship to work, that we care and love you that much. Our dream is to find that guy who is not exactly the man of our dreams, contrary to popular belief: tall, dark and handsome, cause Richard Gomez is already taken (hehe). Instead, we look for someone who is willing to accept the love we have to give, internalize the meaning of being attached (ergo be satisfied with one woman, accept the responsibilities and fulfill the role of a bf) and who will love us in return. Don’t take advantage of us because no matter how slob and asshole you can get we still promised to love you. There’s an end to everything. We trust you, but break that trust and it will really be difficult to regain it. My professor once said that in order for a relationship to work, the guy must love the girl more, but I think it should be equal. Both should be crazy about each other enough to withstand all the troubles that come their way. Love may not be the only ingredient for it to work, but love makes all things possible.
I asked for a sign from God. And until that comes, I will not commit to any one. It may be crazy but I believe in divine intervention and destiny. I will find my match and in the meantime, I will get to know as much guys as I can. I know I couldn’t get away with domineering, KSP, disrespectful jerks, (Thank God I took up Psychology. At least, I have a little more understanding where those attitudes are coming from.) but it’s all part of the wait, the challenge of ending up with the one God intended you to spend the rest of your life with.
Last message to guys: Kayong pa-macho effect jan, guys whose line is “ayaw mo sa akin? Mahiya ka nga buti pinagtyagan pa kita!” aka bitter, yung mga grabe na lang magpalit ng girlfriend, yung mga sagad buto manloko ng mga babae…eto lang masasabi ko…One day you’ll find someone who’ll change ALL that.

Hear mass, ok? It’s Sunday!

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